Up For Discussion- Feeling Bad For Reading What You Enjoy

Yesterday, I saw a link to an article (source: Dear Author) that really got me thinking.  Brenna Clarke Gray, a teacher, wrote an article for Huffington Post calling for readers to stop apologizing for reading what they like. I love what she has to say on the matter:

You should not apologize for what you like to read. The person you are apologizing to can only fit into one of three categories:

1. He or she shares your joy.
2. He or she doesn’t give a good goddamn.
3. He or she thinks less of you for what you read in which case don’t apologize to that person because he or she is clearly a douchebag who doesn’t deserve your obeisance.

Number 1 requires no apology. Number 2 requires no apology. Number 3 neither requires nor deserves! an apology.

So what, then, do you do when someone you respect or even admire, mocks your choice of reading material?  The first time I really felt bad about what I read was in my 9th grade lit class.  We had a list of required reading for the semester, and in addition, we were to read additional books of our choice.  See that last bit?  Of our choice. At that time, I devoured Harlequins, fantasy, and sci-fi.  That’s it.  That’s pretty much all I read.  Back then, I read even more voraciously than I do now. I didn’t have a 60+ hour a week job, no puppies, no ponies, no responsibilities.  I lived for my mid-week trip to the local bookstores with my mom, where I would snap up the latest releases from my favorite authors.  I was looking forward to that class, because I loved to read, and I figured it would be an easy A.

Imagine my surprise when the teacher showed distain for my book selections.  She wrote condescending little notes at the top of my papers that I shouldn’t waste my time reading such tripe.  I was embarrassed.  Then I was pissed.  I read more books than 99% of the population, and this lady was going to make fun of what I read? I am a person who tries to avoid confrontations, and back when I was younger, I was so shy that I rarely spoke in class.  So after stewing about those nasty notes, I decided to alter my choice of reading material.  Good-bye, tame Harlequins, I would not be reading you for this class.  Hello, John Norman, you naughty creator of GOR.  You , I will read.  And Sharon Green?  Hello, Terrilian series and Jalav, Amazon Warrior series.  Yes, I will read you, too, because I know that the teacher will hate you all. (She did, but I still got an A)

I was fortunate that my mom encouraged my reading, and she didn’t really care what I read.  This made it even more puzzling that a stranger would feel the need to show disapproval of what I read.  I thought that the goal of the class was to encourage reading.  My bad.

Today, I don’t care what people think of my choice of books.  If they think that I am wasting my time reading about zombies or unicorns or fluffy pink bunnies, whatever.  Those are not the people I choose to spend my time or energy on.  I continually strive to make new connections with people who enjoy reading, without passing judgment, and those are the people I will try to form friendships with.

Has anybody ever made fun of what you read?  What did you do about it?

Happy New Year!!

We at the Café will spend the first day of the New Year chasing after naughty puppies, reading, feasting at the local Indian buffet, and counting our blessings.  I have much to be thankful for, including wonderful friends, a loving family, and all of my crazy critters.  I also wanted to thank everyone who drops by to read my posts.  Thank you and have a wonderful NEW YEAR!

Firmoo Glasses Review

At the beginning of November, I received an email from Firmoo, offering me a pair of glasses to review.  I was skeptical when I read the email; how could a pair of glasses priced under a hundred bucks be a quality pair of eyewear?  I have horrible vision; I am nearsighted, and my lenses resemble coke bottles.  The last pair that I purchased set me back several hundred dollars, most of that due to the cost of the lenses.  I wanted them ultra thin and ultra light.  While they were very expensive, I have enjoyed my old glasses for years, but it was time for another pair because my vision had changed, so the Firmoo email couldn’t have come at a better time.

Ordering the glasses was a breeze, and the only setback was trying to figure out my pupillary distance.  Dean and I kept missing each other because of our heavy work schedules, so I didn’t have anyone to help me measure the distance.  Finally the stars lined up and we were both home the same weekend!  After sending off my order form, I just had to wait for my new eyewear to be delivered.  But of course life got in the way of writing this review; we went on Thanksgiving vacation to Disney, we both were extremely ill when we got home, and I had so much to catch up on at work!  Then the puppies moved in, and finding a moment to do anything became a chore, but finally! here we are!

This is the pair that I choose – http://www.firmoo.com/eyeglasses-p-1955.html

I picked the purple pair, but I think it is sold out because I don’t see them on the page anymore.

When I received the glasses, I found that all of my fears were unfounded.  This is a nice pair of glasses!  The lenses are thin and light, and now that I have the correct prescription, I can see so much better!  I like that Firmoo included a cleaning cloth and a set of extra screws and nose pads, as well as a tiny screw driver.  The glasses were shipped in a sturdy hard case, so they arrived damage free.

Are you a little leery about purchasing a pair of glasses online? Don’t be! Firmoo has interactive tools to help you discover the perfect pair.  You can even upload your picture and try the frames on your virtual self.  Customer Satisfaction  is their goal, so if you have any problems with your order, just contact their customer service department and they will do their best to make things right for you.

Firmoo has a First Pair Free program.  You can receive a free pair of glasses!  All you pay is the shipping.  Here’s what they have to say about their First Pair Free program:

The old opinion that glasses are only necessities for people with vision problems has already gone. Glasses are increasingly becoming a fad and must-have accessories for celebs and fashionistas. Everyday we can spot millions of non prescription glasses wearers and we are constantly fascinated by many noted film stars’ signature non prescription glasses.They instantly upgrade your look of modern,sexy, vintage or geek by wearing different styles of frames.

Any hot glasses/sunglasses /goggles frames you want can be found on Firmoo, and all are available for both prescription lenses and non-prescription lenses. Are you desperate to have a new look? Now here is the chance, Firmoo has launched a First Pair Free Program to people worldwide. You will absolutely fall in love with the excellent quality, affordable prices, fashionable designs, fast delivery and the good service after trying them with paying shipping only! You even can get a refund/exchange if you are not satisfied with them. It’s totally Risk free, so why not have a try?

Click here (http://www.firmoo.com/free-glasses.html) to get your free glasses now!

 

I like my glasses so much that I am planning on purchasing another pair!

About Firmoo.co.

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Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!  I am currently wandering around Walt Disney World with my family, so I won’t be around much until next week.  The wreath above is at Wilderness Lodge, just before entering Artist’s Point.  They seemed to have skipped right over Thanksgiving and ramped up to Christmas, but that’s okay, because the decorations are so bright and cheerful! 

I wanted to thank all of you for dropping by to read my posts, and wish you a wonderful holiday season.  I love this time of year!  Have a great day and enjoy spending some time with your families!

Bloggiesta! Ole!!

Bloggiesta starts tomorrow.   This wonderful blogging event is happening at a perfect time for me; I am prepping the blog for my upcoming vacation to OKC, and  Bloggiesta gives me a great excuse to stay home and do nothing but blog!  Perfect!!  Here’s my list of activities I plan to tackle:

Clean up sidebar

Catch up on interview posts

Send out questions for planned interview posts

Get current on reviews (I have 4 to write)

Schedule posts for October and have everything ready to go for when I’m on vacation

Prep some of the giveaways I am planning  (I love to recycle books this way!)

Organize TBR mountain before it falls on me and kills me (this is on my list every time!)

Plan my reading list for October

Squeeze in a few volumes of manga (I haven’t been reading enough of these)

Research Feedburner conversion. I don’t like the email subscription aspects of Feedcat

Work out an exercise schedule (because a healthy blogger is a happy blogger! Yes, that was also on the last list, and since I finally have my asthma under control, I need to get back on some kind of exercise routine )

Participate in some of the mini-challenges (this is a great way to learn some new blogging tips and tricks)

Are you participating in Bloggiesta? What are your goals for the weekend?

Update and Sale

I am a bit behind on reviews, and probably won’t be able to catch up until the weekend.  I returned home from vacation to a broken well, and let me tell you, not having water is not pleasant.  All of the little things you take for granted are suddenly no longer possible – flushing the toilet, washing your hands, taking a shower – even cooking and making coffee!  Thankfully we had it repaired in a few days, but now I have piles of laundry and a billion other things I had to put off until it was fixed. 

In the meantime, one of my favorite 2012 releases, Under the Never Sky, is currently discounted to $2.99 for the Kindle.  If you haven’t read this yet, give it a try.  I am counting down the days until the release of Through the Ever Night.

Under the Never Sky by Veronica Rossi will be discounted at Amazon until Sept 17, so grab your copy soon!  Click the cover for the Amazon product page.

Since she’d been on the outside, she’d survived an Aether storm, she’d had a knife held to her throat, and she’d seen men murdered. This was worse.

Exiled from her home, the enclosed city of Reverie, Aria knows her chances of surviving in the outer wasteland—known as The Death Shop—are slim. If the cannibals don’t get her, the violent, electrified energy storms will. She’s been taught that the very air she breathes can kill her. Then Aria meets an Outsider named Perry. He’s wild—a savage—and her only hope of staying alive.

A hunter for his tribe in a merciless landscape, Perry views Aria as sheltered and fragile—everything he would expect from a Dweller. But he needs Aria’s help too; she alone holds the key to his redemption. Opposites in nearly every way, Aria and Perry must accept each other to survive. Their unlikely alliance forges a bond that will determine the fate of all who live under the never sky.

In her enthralling debut, Veronica Rossi sends readers on an unforgettable adventure set in a world brimming with harshness and beauty.

August Wrap-up and September Reading Goals

In order to help myself tackle more review books, both print and digital, once a month I will be posting a list of books that I hope to read during that month.  I work more efficiently when I have a game plan, so hopefully these monthly posts will keep me focused on my goal of reading and reviewing more books, and will make my TBR not seem so intimidating.  By breaking away chunks of the TBR mountain, I can better manage my reading. In theory, anyway!

Ugh! Once again I had a slow month.  I only managed to read 12 books.  I have been busy at work, I was out of town the last week of the month, and my reading time was therefore  reduced.  Boohoo!  I also managed to read hardly anything on my reading list!  My favorite reads in August were The Hallowed One by Laura Bickle and Spellbound by Rachel Hawkins.

Here are some books I hope to get through in September.    What’s on your reading list?

Can’t Hurry Love by Molly O’Keefe

Blades of Winter by G T Almasi

In a Fix by Linda Grimes

Blaze of Winter by Elisabeth Barrett

Body & Soul by Stacey Kade

Pushing the Limits by Katie McGarry

When You Wish Upon A Duke by Isabella Bradford

Blackwood by Gwenda Bond

Three River Ranch by Roxanne Snopek

Library Wars Vol 7 by Kiiro Yumi

This is Not a Test by Courtney Summers

Storm by Brigid Kemmerer

Scandal’s Mistress by Bronwyn Stuart

Jiu Jiu Vol 1 by Touya Tobina

Dark Light of Day by Jill Archer

The King’s Damsel by Kate Emerson

 

Hell on Wheels by Julie Ann Walker

The Night Is Mine by M L Buchman

Shift by Kim Curran

The Dark Unwinding by Stella Cameron

What’s on your reading list for September?

Ready! Set! READ!!